Welcome to “Exploring Intimacy,” a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan delves into the intricate connections between sex and emotions. In this edition, they chat with experts and individuals who enjoy engaging in public sexual encounters to uncover the allure behind this thrilling experience.
The mere mention of “public sex” often evokes strong reactions, whether it’s disgust, excitement, or a mix of both. The image that comes to mind for many is of a couple engaging in penetrative sex in a public setting, perhaps on a beach or in a secluded park. However, public sex encompasses a wide range of sexual activities beyond just intercourse.
In reality, most of us have likely displayed affection in public at some point, whether it’s passionate kissing on a dance floor or a discreet encounter in a parking lot. Depending on local laws, public sex can include anything from exhibitionism to voyeurism. Sex educator Niki Davis-Fainbloom defines public sex as any sexual activity that occurs in a public space where it may be witnessed by others and goes beyond typical displays of affection.
Recent events, such as the viral video of the NYC blanket couple engaging in intimate activities in a public park, have brought public displays of affection into the spotlight. While the couple’s actions may have raised eyebrows, their carefree demeanor as they enjoyed their private moment in a public space sparked a range of reactions from amusement to disapproval.
For some couples, the thrill of engaging in public sex lies in the excitement of the forbidden. However, there are also designated “third places” where individuals can safely explore casual sexual encounters in a public setting, particularly within the queer community.
Laws surrounding public sex have evolved over time, with stricter regulations implemented in the 20th century, notably during the HIV epidemic. Unfortunately, these laws have often disproportionately targeted the LGBTQ+ community, leading to increased scrutiny and control over public sexual behavior.
In conclusion, public sex remains a complex and controversial topic, with individuals finding different reasons and motivations for engaging in these intimate encounters in public spaces.
